I’ve decided to spend some of my summer learning from the works of/about Milton Erickson.
Erickson’s techniques evolved into what we know as Neuro Linguistic Programming. NLP is much like what the PUA community has become; many “know-it-alls” selling their opinions as fact.
This summer is limited and I can’t filter through all the NLP material out there, but I can get through much of the Erickson material . . . I hope . . .
I just finished watching this documentary called American Movie. It’s about a guy named Mark Borchardt who is trying to finish his feature film Coven.
I watched the trailer for American Movie and it looked like a good laugh, so I rented it. I did laugh, but I also learned some things.
One look at Mark Borchardt and you don’t see too much. He looks like someone who came from the 80’s; thick glasses, mullet and interesting facial hair. He’s not eloquent, he’s broke, and his future doesn’t look bright. A couple things he does have going for him are his love for film and a way with words.
Mark uses his passion for film, as well as his way with words, to get help from family, friends, and unknowns. They fund him, film him and even feed him.
He spent three years working on this ~30 minute film Coven. Yes . . . three years. . . . But he got it done.
A lot of people worry about what to say when it comes to talking to girls or even guys. You don’t have to be the most eloquent person to get their undivided attention. Here’s a clip of Mark talking about his love for Burger King as proof:
Be passionate about what you have to say, speak from the heart and you’ll get anyone’s attention.
Get ‘er done!
Here’s the trailer for American Movie for those interested:
One thing that frustrates me the most is when someone isn’t on time.
I used to think it was cool to be fashionably late. Now I see it as being stupid.
If you tell someone you’ll be somewhere at 7 PM then you be there at 7 PM. Your word is your word. Without it you’re nothing.
It doesn’t matter if you arrive before 7 PM, cause you’ll still be there AT 7 PM. When someone arrives after 7 PM with no life-or-death excuse then I just want to swear at them like there is no tomorrow, but that’s not acceptable in North American society.
There are two types of people that I have to deal with when it comes to them being late:
1. The first is family. If they’re late I’ll note never to trust them again when it comes to being on time, but I’ll suck up my frustration because they are family.
2. Everyone else. I’ll wait for up to 15 minutes and then leave. If I happen to catch them just as I am leaving then I’ll tell them, “Bye.” and still leave.
If I’m meeting a girl for the first time there are two benefits with her being late:
1. I know she has no respect for other people’s time.
2. She just freed up an hour of my time, which I would have spent being with her if she was ON TIME.
The moment we begin to fear the opinions of others and hesitate to tell the truth that is in us, and from motives of policy are silent when we should speak, the divine floods of light and life no longer flow into our souls.
–Elizabeth Cady Stanton
A common question I get is, “When is a girl giving me a shit test and what do I do?”
OK. Here’s an example and what to do in such a situation: When your target is drunk, touching her right hip with the forefinger on her left hand and asks “Hey, I just puked a little on my shoe, can you lick it off?” you tell her, “Right away master!” and lick away.
If you take what I said above seriously then I recommend you go stay home tonight and masturbate.
Once you’ve been around enough girls then you could care less about shit tests.
Say a girl gives me a shit test such as, “Buy me a drink”. I’ll tell her, “OK.” and I’ll get a glass of water. If I hand it to the girl and she refuses the water then I’ll take the water back and drink it.
If she is pissed about the drink and gives me a hard time then I’ll take her by the hand, say, “It was a pleasure meeting you.”, turn away from her, and open the closest group.
If you want to be an asshole all your life then refuse every shit test.
I accept or deny shit tests depending on the moment. I know when I’m being tested, but the girl can’t quite tell if I’m supplicating or if I’m being that “perfect” boyfriend.
She knows that I can leave her at any time, cause I tell her, but in a “nice” way. If she does give me a lot of guff then I’ll escort her out of my life. I just make sure to get a little loving before giving her the boot.
I find it odd how the definition of “hot” changes so often. One moment a woman like Paris Hilton is the definition of “hot”, and then the next moment she’s nothing special. Some people will say it’s cause Paris is a “skank”. Then why is Angelina Jolie “hot” when she openly talks about loving sex?
Realize that the media defines what is “hot”. Why do you think they call it television programming? It’s astonishing how how well that boob tube works.
I look in wonder why you have all these young guys look like girls and the girls look like guys. Look no further than the good ol’ television. “Looking androgynous is so in.”
I’m watching Much Music right now. The number one video features Justin Timberlake dancing around wearing a scarf. Why do you need a scarf to keep you warm when you’re dancing? Who cares if you’re hot with a scarf around your neck, cause it’s “hot”.
If you insist on watching television I suggest to understand NLP. Why? Television programming . . . Neuro Linguistic Programming . . .
Once you start thinking while watching the T.V. then girls will change in your eyes. You will be attracted to girls that YOU find “hot”, not what television defines as “hot”.
If you’re lazy and want just one piece of advice; throw your television out the window.
Now on Much Music, The Totally Untrue History of Paris Hilton. . . .
Update: Do not try and write an article while watching television.
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